This week we?ll watch parents speaking about their experiences as parents and the advice they?re given (even when they haven?t asked for). ORIGINAL VIDEO
TRUE OR FALSE
(The point of video is mentioned in minutes and seconds to help you know who said that)
1. People only give you advice when you ask for it. (0:18)
2. The parents tend to disconsider most of the advice they are given. (0:25)
3. The father found something good about using the formula to feed the baby (1:20)
4. They?ve always used the same formula (2:14)
5. They don?t worry about other people?s opinions (2:20)
MATCH:
1. The thing I found about people giving advice is that
2. If I had to describe a perfect parent
3. It felt like I was failing as a mother
4. I had planned to breastfeed but nothing goes
5. We were basically told just let her sleep
a) to do the thing that was so natural and easy
b) according to plan we ended up doing both formula and breastfeeding
c) they like to give it whether you ask for it or not
d) and wake up whenever
e) I don't think I would be able to do that
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ENGLISH TRANSCRIPT:
My mother-in-law ...
Oh, no...
When people give you advice that they?re right, they're super adamant about telling you that they're right pulling up sources on their phone
The thing I found about people giving advice is that they like to give it whether you ask for it or not
Don't give your baby a bath at night or she'll get sick
There's so much advice that we're given constantly that I just completely disregard because what worked for somebody isn't gonna work for us
Just listen to your mom God you'll know what to do
I am absolutely not a perfect parent
If I had to describe a perfect parent I don't think I would be able to do that
No
When we started having to transition into formula it was a huge emotional weight it felt like I was failing as a mother to do the thing that was so natural and easy at least it
appears natural and easy... it's not
I've been really lucky breastfeeding is? it's just such a special moment for us and so I'm so grateful, yeah? Oh my God!
I had planned to breastfeed but nothing goes according to plan we ended up doing both formula and breastfeeding
Being able to feed him gave me an opportunity to bond with him
We definitely did a little formula towards the end your body just gets physically tugged on like it's wearing emotionally and physically
Formula, breast milk, however you get to a healthy happy baby that's what matters
We were basically told just let her sleep and wake up whenever
None of the kids slept until we trained them
Sleep deprivation is a real thing I've fallen down the stairs twice
We do mostly breastfeeding at night I just whip out my boobie
Formula played a really big part in her bedtime routine
That became the indicator that it was time to sleep rather than my body being the comfort
HOW ARE YOU DEALING WITH COLIC AND GAS?
Lilly is my daughter and I know this because she farts like a champ
I know she cried (points to wife)
Haha
You feel so helpless
Yeah, you feel helpless
You lie them on their back and you take their legs oh
Oh
When we tried the second formula it was like yeah!
Other people's opinions about what works for our family don't really matter
Being a good parent to me means to be present and to show up
I look at Natalie and I think she's kicking butt so don't tase me
As long as we're on the same page that's all that matters
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PORTUGUESE TRANSLATION
Minha sogra ...
Ah n�o...
Quando as pessoas aconselham que est�o certas, elas s�o super inflex�veis em dizer que est�o procurando fontes no telefone
O que eu descobri sobre as pessoas dando conselhos � que elas gostam de dar, quer voc� pe�a ou n�o
N�o d� banho ao seu beb� � noite ou ela ficar� doente
H� tantos conselhos que nos s�o dados constantemente que eu ignoro completamente porque o que funcionou para algu�m n�o vai funcionar para n�s
Apenas ou�a sua m�e Deus, voc� saber� o que fazer
Eu absolutamente n�o sou um pai perfeito
Se eu tivesse que descrever um pai perfeito, n�o acho que seria capaz de fazer isso
N�o
Quando come�amos a fazer a transi��o para a f�rmula, era um enorme peso emocional que parecia que eu estava falhando como m�e em fazer o que era t�o natural e f�cil, pelo menos
parece natural e f�cil ... n�o �
Eu tive muita sorte de amamentar � ... � um momento t�o especial para n�s e por isso estou t�o
grato, yeah? Oh meu Deus!
Eu tinha planejado amamentar, mas nada corre de acordo com o plano, acabamos fazendo f�rmula e amamenta��o
Ser capaz de aliment�-lo me deu a oportunidade de se relacionar com ele
Definitivamente, fizemos uma pequena f�rmula no final, seu corpo � fisicamente puxado, como se estivesse vestindo emocional e fisicamente
F�rmula, leite materno, no entanto, voc� obt�m um beb� saud�vel e feliz, o que importa
Nos disseram basicamente deix�-la dormir e acordar sempre
Nenhuma das crian�as dormiu at� trein�-las
Priva��o do sono � uma coisa real eu ca� da escada duas vezes
N�s amamentamos principalmente � noite, eu s� tiro meu peito
F�rmula desempenhou um papel muito importante em sua rotina de dormir
Isso se tornou o indicador de que era hora de dormir, em vez de meu corpo ser o conforto
Como voc� lida com c�lica e g�s?
Lilly � minha filha e eu sei disso porque ela peida como um campe�o
Eu sei que ela chorou (aponta para a esposa)
haha
Voc� se sente t�o impotente
Sim, voc� se sente impotente
Voc� os deita de costas e pega as pernas deles oh
Oh
Quando tentamos a segunda f�rmula, era tipo ?sim?!
As opini�es de outras pessoas sobre o que funciona para a nossa fam�lia n�o importam
Ser um bom pai para mim significa estar presente e aparecer
Eu olho para Natalie e acho que ela est� chutando a bunda, ent�o n�o me prove
Contanto que estejamos na mesma p�gina, isso � o que importa
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VOCABULARY:
ADAMANT- imposs�vel de persuadir, irredut�vel
TO DISREGARD - desconsiderar
BREASTFEED(ING)-amamentar/amamenta��o
TO BOND- colar; se conectar, criar la�os
TO TUG - puxar com velocidade e for�a
WEARING - exaustivo
SLEEP DEPRIVATION- priva��o de sono
WHIP OUT THE BOOBIE- p�r o mam� pra fora
TO FART- soltar pum
CHAMP- abrevia��o de "Champion": campe�/o
HELPLESS- que n�o pode fazer nada para ajudar a si mesmo ou a outra pessoa.
DON'T TASE ME - N�o me puna, n�o me castigue/incomode/critique... "Tase" seria o verbo de usar a arma "taser", que d� um choque em algu�m.
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FILL IN THE GAPS:
1.___ of the kids slept until we trained them
Sleep 2.___ is a real thing I've fallen down the stairs twice
We do mostly breastfeeding at night? I just whip out my 3.___
Formula played a really big 4.___ in her bedtime routine
That became the indicator that it was time to sleep 5.___than my body being the comfort
HOW ARE YOU DEALING WITH COLIC AND GAS?
Lilly is my daughter and I know this because she 6.___ like a champ
I know she cried (points to wife)
Haha
You feel so 7.___
Yeah, you feel helpless
You 8.___ them on their back and you take their legs oh
When we tried the second formula it was like yeah!
Other people's opinions 9.___ what works for our family don't really matter
Being a good parent to me means to 10.___ present and to show up
ANSWERS:
TRUE OR FALSE 1.F 2.T 3.T 4.F 5.T
MATCH: 1.c 2.e 3.a 4.b 5.d
FILL IN THE GAPS:
1.None
2.deprivation
3.boobie
4.part
5.rather
6.farts
7.helpless
8.lie
9.about
10.be
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